I think you should hang out with this new girl some more, see how it goes, and then make your decision, because there is no comparing your time spent with her to the time spent with your current girlfriend.

I don't really think it's wrong, I mean, it's not like you're married or something. Just don't bonk her.

Dump your girlfriend.

You've got the seeds of the idea in your head now. You're gonna do it eventually. This new girl might not work out, sure, but you and your current girlfriend won't either. You've already wasted two years of your life on her.

If nothing else you can still be friends with the girl you met at Cochella. If you do end your relationship don't do it to be with the new girl, do it because you don't really see yourself with your current girlfriend, and just make a clean break of it, if you keep her around while still wanting the other girl, chances are good you'll end up cheating on her, which will only cause more drama.

dude, threesome!

ha ha. no. sorry man, cant help you. in fact nobody can. maybe this is a temporary attraction, maybe you're taking your girlfriend too seriously for your age, maybe you'll lose rope and goat, maybe you'll try and fail, maybe you'll end up with this new girl, maybe you'll stay where you are. this zit will pop one way or another. nobody can advise you, as you're under the spell of larger forces-- yes, try to be reasonable, but know that ultimately these efforts are laughable. then just... live your life as best as you can...

for the sake of honesty however it might be advisable to tell your girl that you're having doubts about your relationship and you need some "space". oh space! she might decide to dump you on the spot or she might give you your space or she might show her claws but that's for her to decide. i think there's no need to give her every detail, or mentioned you kissed this girl, but telling her that you're a temporarily confused or whatever might be all that truthfulness requires. cos maybe you'll go to austin & realize it was all in your head or... well life's a bitch, there are no easy solutions. best wishes. enjoy the ride.

ps- i just noticed this:

now that's some thoughtful analysis...

well, the other girl knows im in a relationship
im going to get to know her better, she would make a great friend, i suppose.


that's the plan.


you've made some good points, but i think we can still be friends or something. she's way too cool for me not to talk to her ever again.
i guess i am a bit insecure when it comes to relationships, because my last 2 girlfriends cheated on me. My current girlfriend has been wonderful though, she's put up with sooo much of my crap and has been there when i needed her. i mean, she has her flaws and certain personality traits i am not too fond of, but so does everyone, i suppose. when you get to know someone well though, you learn to deal/work around these flaws, which is why our relationship works. i think the reason i feel bad is because we are both very honest with each other, but i dont know if i can be honest this time around. i just cant find myself telling her how i feel at the moment.


haha, bonk
love that word.


thank you everyone for the advice, its been very helpful.
i wish my friends would be more helpful... but they're not.

in your own words:

It's a Trap!

ITS A TRAP!

i talked to my girlfriend today and i decided to be honest with her. to my surprise, she didnt flip, didnt say a word until i finished, asked me what was next, i said i didnt know and that i was sorry. she then asked if i needed some time to think things through, which is when i realized how lucky i was, told her i loved her and that i didnt need to think anything through, just for her to accept my apology. she was a bit upset (glad i was honest with her though), doesnt know how she feels about the whole situation. she had to meet her parents for dinner and i had to jet, hopefully she calls me later tonight.

just wanted to thank everyone for the advice one more time, i was going to go one way and then another, but i just did what felt right at the moment. so, i guess i'll see how the cookie crumbles.

good man, you did the right thing, and your girlfriend sounds awesome. i dont know what about her bugs you, but she sounds like she has a backbone and good character. can i call her? :p -- ha ha no, joking man.

anyway best wishes & i hope you learn a thing or two about yourself, life & what not.