sounds like your primal instinct to be a manimal and punch the guy in the face is being intellectualized and the face punching energy is being redirected into serotonin fizzle fry. the healthiest course of action would be to engage in severe physical exercise and start signing up for karate tournaments.
or punch the guy in the face. with your words.

People in relationships shouldn't be allowed to have close friends of the opposite sex.

best way to get back at 1 chick?

2 chicks.

the point isn't about permission. she's texting her friend on a phone while in the middle of a conversation? that's called rude.

i agree, its mostly just rude.


this is kind of turning into a prude thread again... and i thought i was the conservative of the board... but i don't see what the problem is with a SO having close friends of the opposite sex.

all my friends except for like 2 are females. so if i ever have a girlfriend again, there is no way that i wont have friends of the opposite sex. my best friend is a girl.
inhuman, i wouldnt beat yourself up about it. i think even when in a serious relationship your partner needs other people to talk to. but there should still be some boundries

Your girlfriend is a part of your life, not everything. Don't be afraid of change. Relationships are complicated. It's ok to feel upset.
Taking antidepressives can ease your feelings, but remember it's just drugs and building a shield (feeling numb instead of sad or angry) will not solve anything. Open up to your psychiatrist before starting a med plan. His or her reputation doesn't mean he/she will understand what you're going through right away and it takes time to build confidence.
If you've been smoking too much marijuana paranoia could be the effect.
Anyway, good luck. I think I've felt like you before (depression after a break-up, psychiatrists, feeling crazy, etc) so I speak from my experience.
It's not so bad. Cheer up!

get a spare chick is this one runs away.

alternatively (and by that, i mean, SERIOUSLY), have you seen this guy? have you hang out with him? if not, tell your girlfriend that you three should go see a movie or something; if she doesn't want to and doesn't give you a reasonable excuse, then heads up, if she's cool with that, then you're clear.

^^ If she aggrees to the movie...does he take her? If the three go out to a movie, isn't that weird?

^ Righteous idea. The old forced third-wheel will let you see 99% of their relationship. Honestly, how he acts as the third wheel will tell you everything.

plus, if the guy is cool with being a friend, at least he has to be tolerant to the boyfriend. best case scenario, he ends up being a friend of both.

Precisely. And if he's awkward and standoffish all night, let the speculation being.

cellulite, blood, makeup caked acne scarred pothole skin, etc.

grow a bitchin porno stache before you go to this movie. this will establish dominance early on.

That MAY work. But I've known at least one girl who loved to go out with both guys she was stringing out as if they were all one happy family. The guys of course hated it, but pretended otherwise. Seems pretty miserable to me.

sure, i know that, but a) most of the time when that happens, dead air, both guys are oblivious to the circumstances, which is not the case here, at least for our hero inhuman and b) it's just this one time to test the waters, see how the guy acts around her and him. if, like you say, the girl enjoys herself more than the boys then something is going on, definitely.

he tells you that he's feeling depressed about it, and you tell him that he should get a spare girl? are you being 'ironic' or what?

it was a jokey, porky.

employ caution and abandon paranoia.


you did say though that 'every time I go away'

have you thought that maybe she got the new friend because every time you went away she got lonely, and this new friend is solving that problem for her?

is part of yr paranoia, guilt at the fact that this dude is around for her when you are not?

just askin.. since I know I get pretty bored and lonely when my partner goes on long trips, so I can see it from that perspective.


Its possible that there is more going on, and its also possible that he's just a friend. Talking about it + hoping for honesty are the only things that will really leave you feeling any better.

i think youre cheating on her and this is your way to cloak your guilt from yourself and her.

nah, just kidding, pal.

paranoia solves nothing and in most cases causes you to become irrational and actually create a problem when there isn't one