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Well as long as you're not ripping the hair out of your head, I don't think there's much of a problem to speak of. Flaunt it baby, flaunt it.

I never got any support from my parents during high school either concerning good grades, which were all nearly all A's. I made a only a few B's & got shit for it as if I had failed.

I relate, Alex's Trip.

My stepdad, who barely ever said two words to me all my life, ripped his pants-leg climbing a chain link fence at the football stadium where my high school commencement took place & where I gave the valediction. He hugged me & told me he was proud of me. That was the only time he ever expressed to any form of sentiment.

He was always insecure because my stepfather knew I was much more intelligent than himself & that I wasn't his blood. Everything I did to achieve only reminded him of this painful fact, & since we had no communication really, we never bonded in any way, shape or form.

My parents have never helped me financially. As for college, they never lifted a finger to help me there either & by then I wasn't even speaking with them, & I haven't in over ten years.

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Originally Posted by Alex's Trip

I got my report card in from school. Straight A's, highest GPA in the freshman class (940 people). I got nothing from my parents. No reward from the woman that is always on my back about getting Bs on assignments in a class that I have an A in. All I got was "Good job Mr #1 in freshman class" I had known I was the #1 in the class for a long time and I told my mom that but she didn't care until she saw it in writing. Anyway, I got nothing, and it isn't like we are poor. I wouldn't feel bad if I didn't know that I have friends that get $30 dollars per A or even $1000 for straight A's. And what makes it even worse, these people don't even try hard in school. They get an F and say no big deal. One of my friends is too lazy to even copy homework. I can't stand it! What is wrong with these people. Not only are their lives going to be much worse off because of their attitude and grades, parents with that kind of cash won't even motivate them. What is wrong with these people?

My question: Am I a bad person for being upset that I got nothing?

It's human (normal) to feel like that. Just know that good grades will help you in the future (college, or a good job). More importantly, the act of getting good grades helps you build your knowledge base, helps you 'learn how to learn,' etc.. which are far more important than grades.

I'd have to say, though, that your motivations for getting good grades are a tad off. Did your parents even say with sincerity 'Good job?' If not, that really sucks..sucks more than getting some trinket.

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I know it is all materialistic, but I can't help being angry. I worked hard, and I want something. Something to have at the end of the year of hard work. Anything.

I usually don't get angry like this, and I am smart enough to not tell my parents how I feel about it. But I just needed to vent.

Shit, son. You think that is bad? I've been paying for all of my clothes, cds, computer stuff, food, and internet connection since I got a part-time job at Burger King when I was 14. My parents would make me pay when we went out to dinner. The sad part is that I could have been a GREAT student if my parents would have gave a shit. I'm still a decent student with straight As but I skipped a grade. I was labeled a 'genius' in the second grade. Got no wrong on the Iowa Basic Standards tests and shit. If I would have had a little motivation, time, or focus I could have easily been number 1 in my class. Instead, I started smoking pot and skipping school. My parents didn't even give a shit.

Consider yourself fucking lucky.

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Originally Posted by HaydenAsche

Consider yourself fucking lucky.

Why? Because I am motivated with or without my parents? Because I don't need someone to tell me not to smoke pot and skip school?

Yes. At least your parents GIVE A SHIT. My parents would be like 'B on an assignment? Tell me when you have real problems.'

And that wasn't really what I was talking about. I meant that you should feel lucky that they buy you other shit. Don't get rewarded for grades. Reward yourself by getting into a good college and amounting to something.

I would be doing the same things without them. They don't need to give a shit for me to be the head of my class, I am the head of the class for my own reasons. All they do is make me live up to more and more expectations.

I don't see how that is a bad thing. Even if I would have motivated myself back then like I am trying to do now I would have liked someone to push me along.

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Originally Posted by HaydenAsche

You shouldn't have put that "Consider yourself lucky" part at the end. It was hard to understand when you don't structure the post.

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Originally Posted by HaydenAsche

I don't see how that is a bad thing. Even if I would have motivated myself back then like I am trying to do now I would have liked someone to push me along.

There is a fine line between someone pushing you along and someone pushing you over the edge.

Very true. Doing it all for yourself sucks, though.

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Originally Posted by AssBlaster

I didn't even read the first post.

But based upon the first post alone, I've come to the conclusion that "YES!" you are in fact, a bad person.

Thanks for asking an insightful question!

Your friend in christ,
AssBlaster!

We all think you are so much cooler now, not to mention hilariously original...:rolleyes:

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Originally Posted by HaydenAsche

Very true. Doing it all for yourself sucks, though.

Eh, better than doing it all for someone else, right?

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Originally Posted by Alex's Trip

You shouldn't have put that "Consider yourself lucky" part at the end. It was hard to understand when you don't structured the post.

lol. This is funny because "It was hard to understand when you DON'T STRUCTURED the post" makes no sense!

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Originally Posted by Alex's Trip

Eh, better than doing it all for someone else, right?

You are doing it for yourself AND someone else. It's like win/win or lose/lose. Either way it is even.

Yeah...that is true...

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Originally Posted by HaydenAsche

lol. This is funny because "It was hard to understand when you DON'T STRUCTURED the post" makes no sense!

Fuck...I was going to write "When your post isn't structured" but then I went back and changed it and forgot to take off the 'd'.

Haha. I know. I wasn't trying to be mean. I just found it HILARIOUS.

If it makes you happy, it doesn't matter who you're pleasing. I know it's hard to ignore your parents, and I think at least through high school you should take all the motivation you can get, but you do have control over the reasons you work. It doesn't have to be all for them or all for you. And you don't have to stress out about not doing as well as you expect.

At the top of the class, you obviously have the potential to do well. Even if you screw up, with that potential you'll at the very least be able to straighten stuff out. Even if you were to bomb high-school, you'll still be smart and that's worth a lot for your future by itself. Even so, you seem to be doing well so it doesn't even seem like a problem. Just don't stress.

I hope you guys figure out what it's all for... The reason for going through another day, over and over again... :) Cheer up, Alex's Trip... It's all quite relative; are you as bad as, say, a guy who shallowly goes through life without appreciating anything, no music or artisitic or literary appreciation; no spiritual worth, devoid of feeling or soul, but still getting good grades, the girls, drives cool, fast cars his parents bought for him? :) Wouldn't a guy like that be bad?