I want to tell this girl I love her......
 

SAGA OF ME & THE GIRL WHO I WORK WITH PART III:

It's been a while since I updated you guys (refer back to the threads "How Young Is Too Young?" and "A Slice Of My Life At Present") about this girl I work with (she will remain nameless for her privacy)...We've become pretty good friends, going out to dinner and last Saturday we saw a laser show with Pink Floyd together and had a great time, with the exception of my rather poor driving (I ran a red light, nearly stopped at a green light, had to make a U-turn on a one-way street, and got lost on the way back)...

One day, (this was a little while ago) we were supposed to go out after she was done working but couldn't becuz she was having surgery the next day and couldn't eat or drink after a certain time...I was done working before her, and as I left, she said "I love you" and actually blew me a kiss...

Now, she never talks about a boyfriend, although she keeps mentioning this story about nearly backing through her boyfriend's garage door in 10th grade...she never mentions him otherwise...but I find out tonight that she may be having an "overnight visit" this Saturday night...now, am I just being paranoid (which could very well be, I've had a lot of misconceptions about her, like the time she said her mom flushed her Vicodin (sp?); I thought she was popping pills, but it turned out she was just using them as pain medication, taking them as directed) or is she talking about sex? I've developed feelings for her, and I want her to know how I feel about her, but at the same time, I don't want to end up spoiling our friendship and at the same time, I can't bear to think of her with someone else...

Then, fucking do it.

Tell her:

"I've developed feelings for you, and I wanted you to know that. But at the same time, I don't want to spoil our friendship."

and add that you dont want to see here with anyone else.

acually, that comes out wrong... id omit that.

Unless you are having sex with her yourself and have agreed on a monogamous relationship then you have no claim on her.

It sounds like you have wasted time being her friend instead of just getting in there.

In many cases, if you become a girl's friend then the romantic seduction is blown.

I'm not saying you've definitely lost out just yet but there is that possibility.

Get a move on and you might get a bite at the cherry.

She's probably thinking you don't actually fancy her.

If you have slipped into that area of her mind that is "close male friend" I am afraid you might never pull it back.

As a rule of thumb if, after a lengthy period of time, sex has not occured it's probably never going to.

just tell her, whats the option not to? wondering about it your whole life if you dont.

just try it mate. just try it.

I've been in a situation like this before, I tried that and it worked out.

That is such a beautiful sentence, she'll probably fall for it.
My advice is go for it, Tell her how you feel. You'll be fine because I think she likes you.

tell
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best thing you can do in those situations, believe me.

give her a ride.

If she told you she loved you and you did nothing about it then then I'd say she had every right to take that as an indication that you're not interested and to line up another bloke. Sort it out and stop being so emotionally retarded.

So... how'd it go?

Or her eyes will slightly widen, and a disconcerting smile will come across her face, and she'll say something like 'That's nice..'

If this happens, listen for the faint sound of a heart breaking. You'll be able to hear it.

Tell her if you ever find out shes sleeping with another guy you'll beat her into a coma.

If that doesn't work, just be honest and tell her how you feel. I know its fucking hard to do (it is for me at least), but if you want the relationship to develope, you have to show her your true intentions.

I think she already knows you like her dude, but she may not know your INTENT. With ladies, you should always always always make your intent known as soon as possible, because if you don;t they will decide for you , and you do not want to try and romance a lady that has already made up her mind that you are "just a friend" (it hurts like hell)

then again, she may not want a boyfriend or even a steady date, and that is her choice to make (an d it hurts like hell)

but you know what hurts more? NOT telling her you feel that way about her and thn living with that regret man.

Although he's a pup he is right...

for some reason i can't make it through this text. could you provide a short version and a clear question? i promise to answer earnestly, but i can't follow the plot of this soap opera.

Hey now, I did say, "I love you too, [name of girl]."

I might see her later this week...I think I might tell her........................:o

Remember the song that went, "Hey little girl, I wanna be yr boyfriend"? I don't remember how the rest of it went or who sang it, and I really don't like it that much, but I can't help but identify with it right now...

I am going through that exact thing right now, and it is absolutely terrible. Especially because she originally trold me she likes me, and I have kissed her on a couple of occasions, and we spent hours lying next to eachother... all for "I don't really want a relationship... just friends*."

*FUCK THAT PHRASE.

I Wanna Be Your Boyfriend by the Ramones.

That's a Ramones song?! Hmm, yeah, I knew it was by an artist I liked, but I didn't know it was them...actually, I listened to the song on Allmusic, and I think the version I'm thinking of is a cover by some weak early 90s grunge wannabes...

Well, I told her...





























She likes me as a friend, and she thinks I'm a great guy, but...she thinks I'm too old, and all in all, she's right...

However, it did lift a LOT of weight off my shoulders to finally get that cleared up between us.

bad driving = turn off

and my advice to you is dont wait too long because she COULD have feelings for you, and if you wait those feelings might be gone.
also, it could make things awkward if you're friends with her for too long and you tell her you love her.
i say, tell her how you feel and say you dont want it to affect y'alls friendship

im sure you'll be alright, partna'

*doh, i didnt read your last post!!!
blah!

well, good luck to ya
theres many a-fish in the sea

suprise sex

You should have pulled a Han Solo when she said "I Love You" and said "I know" she would have wet herself right then and there.

blugh , boring, i know i guy that does that , or rather he says "i love me too" and its just annoying becuase the shit-eating-grin on his face when he does that shows much more enjoyment than its worth by far .

Shit man, I have the same sort of feelings now... Sucks, but I guess theres nothing you can do.

Now that is gross. But if you look into her eyes and say I know and kiss her right before you are about to be carbon frozen, I think it is a bit different.

sorry for jumping in late, but what is your & her age?

thats true.,...in that situation, SOMEONE is going to die .

Hey GeneticKiss....sorry to fukkin pop in after this issue has probavly been loooog resolved...bear with me....questions:
1. Where (in a relationship) do you want to be with this girl in 6 months?
2. What surgery did she have?
3. Do you trust what she says to be the truth?
4. Did you ever find out if she is involved w/anybody?

Well, I fuckin am clueless but I really seem to respond empathetically to these kinds of topics. Good luck, whatever, man.

Hey artsygrrl, long time no see...

1. Maybe I should PM you about this one.
2. She was just getting her wisdom teeth removed.
3. I did at the time, but now I'm not quite sure...PM
4. I'll PM you about this one too...

It may be resolved, or it may not. PM to follow...