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well, it's HER child.
i don't know there's this funny thing that people seem to think as soon as a woman is pregnant they become somehow entitled of having a say. In many countries, women cannot abort. Most places have an entire community of doctors and people telling a woman she should choose natural birth and if she doesn't she's evil. Other times they'll say a woman is doing something wrong if she doesn't like to breastfeed. Or they will go to insane extremes like telling strangers who haven't asked anything that they shouldn't be smoking.
It's almost like there's all these rules for you to be "worthy of motherhood".
How is that different to going up to 40-year-old pregnant woman anf sayinf "how dare you get pregnant at that age? do you know how the risks for the child?". We just don't do that because it's nobody's business.
But I know smoking is not something you choose to do, and I know I have absolutely no right over that person or her choices.
if that's the logic we should be telling them to leave polluted places and controlling what they eat?
quitting smoking is really hard. maybe if a woman had been planning she would have time to consider that. I haven't been pregnant, don't know what it feels like therefore i'm not gonna be judging, but I don't imagine it makes quitting smoking any easier.
in fact, i once heard my doctor tell a pregnant woman quitting abruptly would be dangerous?
there's a baby in there but it's not yours, so you have no say.
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