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Originally Posted by SuchFriendsAreDangerous
sex=power
It is power over another person, and it is power over yourself. You have power when you abstain or restrain your sexuality, even if temporarily (i.e. why people can't just start fucking or jacking off on the bus or at the water cooler at work). There is a time and place. Further, there is varying etiquette, but more or less all sex is power. We give people power over us to be pleasured, and in the same instance we have power over them while we pleasure them. For example, oral sex seems to some to be "degrading" and yet to others, to be the giver is to have that power over a person, while at the same time the person receiving probably equally feels a bit of power.
Violence is a form of asserting power. Some people are always on a power trip, so they are either violent or sometimes just promiscuous, but either way, they are even if subconsciously searching for opportunities to express and assert power.
Me? I'm a spiritualist, sex is about a higher power. It is about a higher connection. If its not? You're just kidding yourself and its just masturbation with a partner  |
im confused because, although i understand and agree with almost everything you say here, i could never really view sex as power over someone else. even though i have been hearing that so many years and even having it making sense for a second.
maybe it takes place temporary and subconsciously, especially during the act.
maybe i can understand when people who are attracted and want eachother and want to devour eachother, by having sex they feel some kind of power, because they managed to have a taste of the other one.
sex is to me, about pleasure, enjoying your and other body, about connection as you said too, and about feeling alive. and that is surely powerful feelings and it does make you feel power(-ful).
ok, i can get the power over the other thing, but i dont believe its a thought or feeling that can last for long in someone's head.
well, i havent been in a relationship for a very long time and perhaps i am forgetting things.
sex and all the rest of a couple life, although essentially connected, they can be separate things. for example, we all know, there is sex talk and it has its place only during sex. but surely there are thin lines and limits, that perhaps we dont know we have, and not only regarding sex, that if crossed it may affect us as people and therefor affect the relationship as well.