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!@#$%! · 04.22.2007, 01:59 PM

okay... that was a nice little breakfast. and in the meantime i was thinking & rummaging through the internet. decided to break down the thing into little pieces:

1) in-state vs. out of state. definitely in-state! for infinite reasons: 1) reduced tuition 2) eligible for work-study 3) more options for financial aid, which combined with #1 make for less or no debt at the end of your studies. 4) closer to home, if you need to be near your family (you could even go spend the weekend).

2) choice of schools. see i was thinking in general small colleges would be better for you because of their quieter atmosphere & more attention from teachers etc. but i don't know if you can find a public institution like that in missourah. private ones maybe, but those are expen$ive.

check this out:
http://missouri.collegedirectorynetwork.com/
you can probably start looking for suitable places there. however--

i think you definitely should tour the schools before you set foot there. you have all summer & fall & maybe you can make it a little family excursion-- you know, small road trip. snoop around orientation if you can, drop in on a random weekend to check out the campus atmosphere.

3) housing. well you are not completely out of options. just know that from now until the day you finally are able to afford your own home (whether it's bought or rented) you're not going to be satisfied with your living quarters. no you won't. sorry but it's a fact of life. people spend their lifetimes looking for the right place to live and some can afford their silly dreams others have to compromise. so, train yourself

having said that-- it seems to me that renting outside campus would better suit your introverted nature. you need quiet, privacy, etc. if that's the case, even an apartment with roomates might be hell on earth. i had a roomate who dealt pot from his bedroom. we always had "visitors". very fucking annoying (i'm not a potehad). he and his girlfriend (who stayed often) also had loud fights & dramas. not the best place in the universe.

however-- in every university town there are always hordes of little old ladies who rent rooms in their very proper homes. some have "kitchen privileges" & stuff like that. i personally would never like to live in a place like that because i've always liked to bring *cough* visitors home. BUT, keeping in mind that compromise is our daily bread, this might be a place where you can find quiet & privacy & a place away from the bustle of school.

usually, those types of rooms become available at any point in the year because your typical college student doesn't like to live with grandma who doesn't let the boyfriend/girlfriend spend the night. so there will be openings year-round and there will be no lease to sign because you'll be on a month-to-month basis. and then you can wait it out until you find someone to live with. and if you're close enough (3-4 hours?) you'll be able to go home on weekends.

my advice when you decide on a school for next spring is to go to the off-campus housing office in like december & see what listings they have. check the local papers etc & visit the houses & arrange your situation in advance of moving there. it will be well worth the effort. you can even do that during winter break.

4) stalkers. you're hot. get used to it. (ha ha). well as it turns out i know a lot of girls who've had stalkers & some turn out to be harmless. my wife used to have a stalker & i met him at a party & he was a nice quiet guy and it turns out we lived in the same building!! but he never bugged us. a lot of what people think of as "stalkers" are just horny boys in love. BUT-- you have months to prepare. i suggest one of those rape awareness classes (i think you've posted about that) but also maybe take a self-defense class or something like that. i know it sounds ridiculous but knowing how to kick someone in the nuts & run is a vital skill. eye-gouging is pretty handy too.

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anyway, i hope you find a way to make it! now i have to get off the internet because madame !@#$%! has returned & my attention is required.

but best wishes luxy-- i hope this has been useful

04.22.2007, 01:59 PM	#32
!@#$%! invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: mars attacks Posts: 42,731	okay... that was a nice little breakfast. and in the meantime i was thinking & rummaging through the internet. decided to break down the thing into little pieces: 1) in-state vs. out of state. definitely in-state! for infinite reasons: 1) reduced tuition 2) eligible for work-study 3) more options for financial aid, which combined with #1 make for less or no debt at the end of your studies. 4) closer to home, if you need to be near your family (you could even go spend the weekend). 2) choice of schools. see i was thinking in general small colleges would be better for you because of their quieter atmosphere & more attention from teachers etc. but i don't know if you can find a public institution like that in missourah. private ones maybe, but those are expen$ive. check this out: http://missouri.collegedirectorynetwork.com/ you can probably start looking for suitable places there. however-- i think you definitely should tour the schools before you set foot there. you have all summer & fall & maybe you can make it a little family excursion-- you know, small road trip. snoop around orientation if you can, drop in on a random weekend to check out the campus atmosphere. 3) housing. well you are not completely out of options. just know that from now until the day you finally are able to afford your own home (whether it's bought or rented) you're not going to be satisfied with your living quarters. no you won't. sorry but it's a fact of life. people spend their lifetimes looking for the right place to live and some can afford their silly dreams others have to compromise. so, train yourself having said that-- it seems to me that renting outside campus would better suit your introverted nature. you need quiet, privacy, etc. if that's the case, even an apartment with roomates might be hell on earth. i had a roomate who dealt pot from his bedroom. we always had "visitors". very fucking annoying (i'm not a potehad). he and his girlfriend (who stayed often) also had loud fights & dramas. not the best place in the universe. however-- in every university town there are always hordes of little old ladies who rent rooms in their very proper homes. some have "kitchen privileges" & stuff like that. i personally would never like to live in a place like that because i've always liked to bring cough visitors home. BUT, keeping in mind that compromise is our daily bread, this might be a place where you can find quiet & privacy & a place away from the bustle of school. usually, those types of rooms become available at any point in the year because your typical college student doesn't like to live with grandma who doesn't let the boyfriend/girlfriend spend the night. so there will be openings year-round and there will be no lease to sign because you'll be on a month-to-month basis. and then you can wait it out until you find someone to live with. and if you're close enough (3-4 hours?) you'll be able to go home on weekends. my advice when you decide on a school for next spring is to go to the off-campus housing office in like december & see what listings they have. check the local papers etc & visit the houses & arrange your situation in advance of moving there. it will be well worth the effort. you can even do that during winter break. 4) stalkers. you're hot. get used to it. (ha ha). well as it turns out i know a lot of girls who've had stalkers & some turn out to be harmless. my wife used to have a stalker & i met him at a party & he was a nice quiet guy and it turns out we lived in the same building!! but he never bugged us. a lot of what people think of as "stalkers" are just horny boys in love. BUT-- you have months to prepare. i suggest one of those rape awareness classes (i think you've posted about that) but also maybe take a self-defense class or something like that. i know it sounds ridiculous but knowing how to kick someone in the nuts & run is a vital skill. eye-gouging is pretty handy too. --- anyway, i hope you find a way to make it! now i have to get off the internet because madame !@#$%! has returned & my attention is required. but best wishes luxy-- i hope this has been useful
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