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Originally Posted by sarramkrop

Yeah, but you always seem to put the sexual part before the mental one. The manhug you talk about is more likely to be the feeling of being able to relate to someone who understands you, rather than just a quick shag. And let's be clear that it is way more difficult to find that someone if you are a teenager and gay. That's a fact that you can't deny. In saying that, good times happen no matter what.

if it was merely a matter of the mind then he could talk to a priest, or a book (or even the internet )would be good enough. i am for the mind, but i am strongly against denying the body in the name of romantic abstractions. i never (ever) said "a quick shag", that is an error of people who practice dualism-- mind vs. body, good vs. evil-- which is ultimately a load of balls.

i think (i speculate, from inference) that alex lives perhaps too much in his head. it would not hurt him to descend into his skeleton & find out what it does & how it operates. the body is a great & wonderful thing, not some useless moprag.

there is something that a whiff of the smell of your loved one can give you that no "mental" exchange can give you. something that feeds the body and the emotions in a way that no idea can. there is no need to dirty the body by claiming that all it wants is a "quick shag". just read walt whitman, he explains it all beautifully.