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Originally Posted by !@#$%!
sure she "shares" a lot, and friends don't need to be perfect-- my point simply is that according to her there's something wrong with you but by reading your report i see you as the mentally healthy one.
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I don't worry that she's actually correct about any of this, if that's what you mean. I think I'm the right one, but that's a given. It's not really any kind of dilemma. I'm just trying to understand how other people think, and sharing my experiences with them.
I don't think our time together is as good for me as it will hopefully be for her, however. I try to tell her, repeatedly, that she needs to respect herself, and that she should stand up for herself when her boyfriend treats her like shit (which is constantly). And when she was having doubts about continuing her education in the arts, I encouraged her to keep trying, etc. When it comes to matters of my own life, she tends to ruin things a bit, like the time she tried to fix me up with a schoolmate of ours even though I politely asked her not to. And things were somewhat awkward between me and this schoolmate for a while because of her intervention, although at this moment they are entirely back to normal and even better than before. So it's like, as disastrous as my friendship can be at times with this girl, it really only gets that way if I give her too much power. And it's never even deliberate. I don't share "special things" with her at all, she just somehow manages to act like I do, and if I'm not on guard then I'm not always prepared to deal with whatever comes next.