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i don't think you can personally do much other than sing him "i'll be your mirror" in one way or another (literally & metaphorically, that is, show him how you see him). the origins of this could be some kind of serious trauma, & poking around in someone's unconscious is not a task for the uninitiated-- you might unleash the dormant demons and then not know what to do with them. of course i always suggest professional help with this kind of trouble, but in terms of your relationship, you'll need a lot of patience.