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Talking to people online is tricky. Since I have a tiny bit of time to kill until this porno finishes downloading, here's some of my random 'wisdom' on internet dating for those that might be interested.
Real advice:
Many people have gotten over the stigma of online dating, but still would like to treat it the same way they treat regular dating. Meaning, they treat sites like OkCupid like the new bar or hang-out spot. They make a profile on it in the same way they offer their presence in the physical space of the bar. They are merely showing up and are open to the idea of possibly meeting someone, but very few will wear that on their sleeve. You'd get kind of creeped out if a complete stranger in a bar walked up to you and said "Hey, you're cute and like Sonic Youth, let's go out." Even if they're attractive enough and potentially a cool person, ideally there will be some basic conversation and connection before such an idea is considered. The same goes for the internet. Don't just be all "Hey, want to get a drink some time?" to a chick on the internet.
Don't mention where things could go right away. Rather, let those things just go there on their own. Just like you would in real life (hopefully.) Who is more appealing to you upon first impression? The stranger that is over-eager to meet you, or the stranger that seems content on their own, but whom you could potentially meet? Eagerness can be confused with neediness. They don't go hand in hand by any means, but when it comes to dating many people have learned that one can definitely imply the other. People are more immediately attracted to others that don't seem so insistent. It gives the impression that they are content and confident, and that if you do interact with them there will be no pressure, things will be on an even plane, and things can flow more naturally.
All of that said, DO NOT form emotional or romantic attachments over the internet. I don't care how hot she is, how awesome she sounds, you have not met this person. She is not your dream girl. All you've seen is her profile... a few random angles of her appearance, some basic information about her, some impressions of her that she has created and would like to convey, and maybe a list of bands that she likes. At best, this is to be used as a spring-board. Use it to say "Ok, this person MIGHT be awesome" and decide to meet them based on it.
If the two of you are going back and forth and it's apparent that you both think the other MIGHT be cool, then meet as soon as you can, rather than just build things up that need to be torn down upon first meeting. When you do meet this person, expect them to be different. To look a little different, and to absolutely not reflect anything you built up in your head. Sometimes they're about what you expected, sometimes they're not quite what you expected, sometimes they're better, sometimes they are worse.
I've met a ton of people off of the internet. I generally find it best to have no expectations, that way thing don't get steered a certain way. I've formed romantic relationships off of the internet (some good, some bad), friendships (some good, some bad), fuck buddies (it's hard for pure sex to go very poorly)... and then there is the occassional one-time meeting that goes nowhere, which is fine too. I've only met one or two truly horrible people off of the internet, so my track record is really good.
Bad advice:
Send her a picture of your dick immediately. Let her know what she'll be working with. Ultimately, it's all a woman cares about. If she can get up on that thing or can see herself polishing it off once or twice a day, expect an immediate meeting. If she says some shit like "I didn't want that, I'm not interested in pictures of dicks, why did you do that?" she's lying and is just saying that so she can back out of it guilt-free. Chick just plain didn't want your action. But the golden rule is: all women care about and want in this world is dicks. Even lesbians.
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