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Originally Posted by Derek
(even though she has me and tons of people she talks to online... and I keep telling her she should ask these people to hang out instead of attaching herself to someone that's mean to her)
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you can't expect people to throw out their friends. Lovers can not replace friends, it is too different. If your chick's friend is truly such a detriment, then your chick will find out inevitably. I have had plenty of horror stories over friends, that have even escalated to end in gun violence
eventually I discovered who was and who weren't my
friends but that can't be the decision of my lovers, my other friends, my co-workers, or my family. Those decisions had to made entirely on my own, through my own distinct experiences and interpretation of the vibes/feelings..
the best thing you can do is be supportive and positive. Do NOT be antagonistic to her friend, it will ONLY come back in your face. If you love or at least care about your chick, then you will be comfortable letting her make her OWN mistakes, but ALSO don't let some bad apple chicks (ie, the friend) fuck up YOUR program either. That being said, let your chick have her friend and casually supervise to make sure this friend doesn't fuck up anything of yours (like stealing from you or calling the cops for bullshit or things like that, after all some chicks live in a constant power trip and you especially have to watch those ones)