I'm quitting my band

Trasher02 · 02.02.2007, 03:57 PM

Because of the bass-player. He's a great guy but he's by far the most untalented muscisian I've ever met. He can't even play the easiest things without fucking up. The bad part is that there aren't any other bass players around here with the same musical interests. So how am I supposed to tell him this without making him pissed?

fishmonkey · 02.02.2007, 04:06 PM

been there man, and fuckin done that. except swap the bass player with the drummer in my case, aint no easy way around it. i just went thru a band break up recently and i was the one who called the whole thing to a halt, the upshot of it is i am public enemy #1.
fuck it, i knew in my heart it wasnt going anywhere and so did the other members, except i was the one who stood up and said it, while they (not all of em now - dont get me wrong) just used me as the scapegoat.
i dont like been the friend that tells you yr breath stinks of that you reek of sweat and need a shower or that the top yr wearing really doesnt suit you but i am that person, and i do it cuz i would want to be told.

straight out with it Thrasher02, let em down gently if you can but aint no point in going on if you know in yr heart its not working.

Savage Clone · 02.02.2007, 04:09 PM

It's as hard and as necessary as ending a bad romantic relationship.
I have been in the same position, and you can be as tactful as humanly possible and there will still be hurt feelings.
He will be either hurt or angry or both, but he's obviously not ready to play with other people just yet. I'm sorry you have to deal with this; it's painful for everyone.

Danny Himself · 02.02.2007, 04:12 PM

Who needs bass players?

CHOUT · 02.02.2007, 04:20 PM

I do! Gotta love bass.

Maybe tell him you'd like to play with him again after he learns the bass better?

Trasher02 · 02.02.2007, 04:21 PM

He leaves his bass at my house practically all the time. And I told him before that he was kinda rubbish but he hasn't improved since.

thewall91 · 02.02.2007, 04:47 PM

do him the favor and at least be honest about it. we just went through this big process of looking for a singer. we found the perfect girl - looks, voice, stage presence, etc. she agreed, was super excited. came to one practice - acted seriously enthusiastic. then last night she quit (we hired her saturday). unfortunately she quit after we told our second choice that we didn't pick her and found someone else. she says she's "looking to go in a different direction" and wants to sing more "blues" (even though she tried out for a rock band.) we all think it's some sort of outside influence, like her boyfriend, who probably told her being in a cover band won't enhance her career or something, but either way, none of us are buying her bullshit excuse. and it certainly doesn't help us. i'd rather have her say "because you suck" if it were true than the crap she threw at us. but we don't suck, we rule, so it's her loss. so there.

Danny Himself · 02.02.2007, 04:49 PM

Why does your band only play covers?

k-krack · 02.02.2007, 05:00 PM

I hate to say it, but don't be in a cover band! Come on!!!

fishmonkey · 02.02.2007, 05:17 PM

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Originally Posted by k-krack

I hate to say it, but don't be in a cover band! Come on!!!

i played in a cover band. original band all the fuckin bands.
ok i only did the covers for €€€€€'s but its still shitty when it hits the wall..
my piece of shit cover band hit the wall lately i was fuckin devistated - i'm only getting over it now.

thewall91 · 02.02.2007, 05:24 PM

we're not just a cover band, we are the only all-girl motley crue coverband in the world. honestly, i'm at an age where i'm not looking to record and write music and tour the country. if i'm going to do original music, i want to do it big and be the best, and that doesn't fit in with my lifestyle. i don't have to change my life to be in a cover band. we're going to play music that everyone can sing along to, and music that is fun to play. clubs are more willing to book a band that will draw a crowd than a band that nobody knows anything about, and we've already got a ton of clubs that want to book us without ever having heard us. we just can't play them til we get a singer. i know motley crue isn't the coolest band in these parts of the internet, but listen to shout at the devil and see if you don't find yourself shouting by the end of the song. i dare you...

fishmonkey · 02.02.2007, 05:27 PM

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Originally Posted by thewall91

we're not just a cover band, we are the only all-girl motley crue coverband in the world. honestly, i'm at an age where i'm not looking to record and write music and tour the country. if i'm going to do original music, i want to do it big and be the best, and that doesn't fit in with my lifestyle. i don't have to change my life to be in a cover band. we're going to play music that everyone can sing along to, and music that is fun to play. clubs are more willing to book a band that will draw a crowd than a band that nobody knows anything about, and we've already got a ton of clubs that want to book us without ever having heard us. we just can't play them til we get a singer. i know motley crue isn't the coolest band in these parts of the internet, but listen to shout at the devil and see if you don't find yourself shouting by the end of the song. i dare you...

wow.
fair play to ya. hope yee get that singer problem sorted.

heavium · 02.02.2007, 06:06 PM

get rid of him or leave the band, a good drummer and bassist are the foundation of your band, if they're shit musicians you'll always sound like shit live, nomatter how good your singer or guitarists are...just be honest about it, either you leave the band to join one with a good bassist instead of wasting your time with bad musicians or you talk about it with the other peeps in your band to see if they feel the same about it...it's tough..and let's face it...practice might make you a better musician..sure..but you need talent for just that extra bit ..and that's something that doesn't come with tons and tons of practice..you just have it or you don't, you need friendship in a band, but sympathy isn't going to get you gigs and stuff....playing in a band should be fun, but it should also be a challenge..else you're going to get bored..rehearsing but never doing gigs sucks ass.

and btw, covers are great when you're just starting out but challenge yourself a bit more..write your own songs ! way more fun too :-)

Norma J · 02.02.2007, 06:14 PM

We're jamming with a bassplayer tomorrow to see how he fits. I said to him the other night that if he doesn't like the music and he's not that interested to tell me because I don't want him playing if he's not interested in the music. He was glad to hear that - I think most people are.

king_buzzo · 02.02.2007, 06:26 PM

cool, thrasher new avartar.

talk to the other members of the band to see what they think and kick him out.

SpectralJulianIsNotDead · 02.02.2007, 07:06 PM

I quit a band recently- I was like, "these songs hurt my vocal chords and singing about women being cockteases and fucking the shit out of jenny jones isn't going to help me get out of my current situation of not getting any."

I need to get a good drummer and bassist for the Spectral Presence. I'm tired of fricking programming drum machine parts for every fricking song and having to write guitar parts that can work without basslines because I can't keep a bassist more than a month or two because they have like no work ethic.

heavium · 02.02.2007, 07:45 PM

spectral, i so hear ya on the drum-programming crap..it's hell ! =P

CHOUT · 02.02.2007, 08:37 PM

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Originally Posted by SpectralJulianIsNotDead

I quit a band recently- I was like, "these songs hurt my vocal chords and singing about women being cockteases and fucking the shit out of jenny jones isn't going to help me get out of my current situation of not getting any."

I need to get a good drummer and bassist for the Spectral Presence. I'm tired of fricking programming drum machine parts for every fricking song and having to write guitar parts that can work without basslines because I can't keep a bassist more than a month or two because they have like no work ethic.

Move to Minneapolis and I'll be your bass player, bud.

Alex's Trip · 02.02.2007, 08:56 PM

I don't even have a band to quit out of. I've hardly been playing guitar anymore because of it.

samuel · 02.02.2007, 11:15 PM

just kill him

02.02.2007, 03:57 PM	#1
Trasher02 invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 6,356	Because of the bass-player. He's a great guy but he's by far the most untalented muscisian I've ever met. He can't even play the easiest things without fucking up. The bad part is that there aren't any other bass players around here with the same musical interests. So how am I supposed to tell him this without making him pissed? __________________ 666
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02.02.2007, 04:06 PM	#2
fishmonkey invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Ireland Posts: 2,670	been there man, and fuckin done that. except swap the bass player with the drummer in my case, aint no easy way around it. i just went thru a band break up recently and i was the one who called the whole thing to a halt, the upshot of it is i am public enemy #1. fuck it, i knew in my heart it wasnt going anywhere and so did the other members, except i was the one who stood up and said it, while they (not all of em now - dont get me wrong) just used me as the scapegoat. i dont like been the friend that tells you yr breath stinks of that you reek of sweat and need a shower or that the top yr wearing really doesnt suit you but i am that person, and i do it cuz i would want to be told. straight out with it Thrasher02, let em down gently if you can but aint no point in going on if you know in yr heart its not working. __________________ "Pescescimmia ha grandi bulbi oculari blu, ognuno attaccato su un lato della sua testa, in modo tale da risucire a guardare indietro senza girare la sua testa pesciosa"
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02.02.2007, 04:09 PM	#3
Savage Clone invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 11,287	It's as hard and as necessary as ending a bad romantic relationship. I have been in the same position, and you can be as tactful as humanly possible and there will still be hurt feelings. He will be either hurt or angry or both, but he's obviously not ready to play with other people just yet. I'm sorry you have to deal with this; it's painful for everyone.
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02.02.2007, 04:12 PM	#4
Danny Himself invito al cielo Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 9,623	Who needs bass players?
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02.02.2007, 04:20 PM	#5
CHOUT invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Minneapolis MN Posts: 3,128	I do! Gotta love bass. Maybe tell him you'd like to play with him again after he learns the bass better? __________________ Chout's rare Sonic Youth vids: http://youtube.com/SONICchout
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02.02.2007, 04:21 PM	#6
Trasher02 invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 6,356	He leaves his bass at my house practically all the time. And I told him before that he was kinda rubbish but he hasn't improved since. __________________ 666
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02.02.2007, 04:47 PM	#7
thewall91 children of satan Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 383	do him the favor and at least be honest about it. we just went through this big process of looking for a singer. we found the perfect girl - looks, voice, stage presence, etc. she agreed, was super excited. came to one practice - acted seriously enthusiastic. then last night she quit (we hired her saturday). unfortunately she quit after we told our second choice that we didn't pick her and found someone else. she says she's "looking to go in a different direction" and wants to sing more "blues" (even though she tried out for a rock band.) we all think it's some sort of outside influence, like her boyfriend, who probably told her being in a cover band won't enhance her career or something, but either way, none of us are buying her bullshit excuse. and it certainly doesn't help us. i'd rather have her say "because you suck" if it were true than the crap she threw at us. but we don't suck, we rule, so it's her loss. so there.
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02.02.2007, 04:49 PM	#8
Danny Himself invito al cielo Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 9,623	Why does your band only play covers?
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02.02.2007, 05:00 PM	#9
k-krack invito al cielo Join Date: May 2006 Location: On Posts: 7,380	I hate to say it, but don't be in a cover band! Come on!!! __________________ sandwich klub 4 men. Danny is a C.H.U.D.
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02.02.2007, 05:24 PM	#11
thewall91 children of satan Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 383	we're not just a cover band, we are the only all-girl motley crue coverband in the world. honestly, i'm at an age where i'm not looking to record and write music and tour the country. if i'm going to do original music, i want to do it big and be the best, and that doesn't fit in with my lifestyle. i don't have to change my life to be in a cover band. we're going to play music that everyone can sing along to, and music that is fun to play. clubs are more willing to book a band that will draw a crowd than a band that nobody knows anything about, and we've already got a ton of clubs that want to book us without ever having heard us. we just can't play them til we get a singer. i know motley crue isn't the coolest band in these parts of the internet, but listen to shout at the devil and see if you don't find yourself shouting by the end of the song. i dare you...
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02.02.2007, 06:06 PM	#13
heavium bad moon rising Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: belgium Posts: 148	get rid of him or leave the band, a good drummer and bassist are the foundation of your band, if they're shit musicians you'll always sound like shit live, nomatter how good your singer or guitarists are...just be honest about it, either you leave the band to join one with a good bassist instead of wasting your time with bad musicians or you talk about it with the other peeps in your band to see if they feel the same about it...it's tough..and let's face it...practice might make you a better musician..sure..but you need talent for just that extra bit ..and that's something that doesn't come with tons and tons of practice..you just have it or you don't, you need friendship in a band, but sympathy isn't going to get you gigs and stuff....playing in a band should be fun, but it should also be a challenge..else you're going to get bored..rehearsing but never doing gigs sucks ass. and btw, covers are great when you're just starting out but challenge yourself a bit more..write your own songs ! way more fun too :-) __________________ http://www.myspace.com/lemonpiefrog
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02.02.2007, 06:14 PM	#14
Norma J invito al cielo Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Orstralia Posts: 4,917	We're jamming with a bassplayer tomorrow to see how he fits. I said to him the other night that if he doesn't like the music and he's not that interested to tell me because I don't want him playing if he's not interested in the music. He was glad to hear that - I think most people are. __________________ I want girls with new-wave hair-doos
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02.02.2007, 06:26 PM	#15
king_buzzo invito al cielo Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 11,110	cool, thrasher new avartar. talk to the other members of the band to see what they think and kick him out.
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02.02.2007, 07:06 PM	#16
SpectralJulianIsNotDead invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 7,409	I quit a band recently- I was like, "these songs hurt my vocal chords and singing about women being cockteases and fucking the shit out of jenny jones isn't going to help me get out of my current situation of not getting any." I need to get a good drummer and bassist for the Spectral Presence. I'm tired of fricking programming drum machine parts for every fricking song and having to write guitar parts that can work without basslines because I can't keep a bassist more than a month or two because they have like no work ethic.
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02.02.2007, 07:45 PM	#17
heavium bad moon rising Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: belgium Posts: 148	spectral, i so hear ya on the drum-programming crap..it's hell ! =P __________________ http://www.myspace.com/lemonpiefrog
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02.02.2007, 08:56 PM	#19
Alex's Trip invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Southern California Posts: 5,608	I don't even have a band to quit out of. I've hardly been playing guitar anymore because of it.
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02.02.2007, 11:15 PM	#20
samuel the end of the ugly Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 1,173	just kill him
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