[SONIC GAIL]

Originally Posted by Nefeli

good for you girl.
everything is gonna be fine.

Thnx sweetie<3<3

[SONIC GAIL]

I love my giant ass bloody thurston sig

[pony]

Originally Posted by SONIC GAIL

Hello my little darling<3<3<3 I am having alot of fun just being me

The kids love the new me. They got thier momma backThey belive in me and are proud of me and it means so much.

Looks like u had fun in the US. Gotta come see me in FL soon. Beaches swamps and manatees

planning on coming back in the summer!!
if i AM able to save up all the money, i will sure as hell come see you and the babies!

[SONIC GAIL]

Originally Posted by pony

planning on coming back in the summer!!
if i AM able to save up all the money, i will sure as hell come see you and the babies!

We will have so much fun and adventures!!!!!!!!!

Cant wait<3

[Nefeli]

i m sorry, but its been bothering me; apart from the posts where people have been clear about disagreeing to a divorce, i ve been sensing, lets say a non approval in some other posts as well.
and i simply dont get it.
of course everyone wished you well etc.

how can someone have an opinion on 2 other people getting a divorce, or for the idea of it itself. i can understand there are reasons, probably related to religion or smth, but still.
do you feel the same when people break a relationship, but not a marriage? (rhetorical).

[Nefeli]

yes, i understand that.

'why get married in the 1st place'- thats rhetorical too i guess..
people dont believe that they will get divorced..or whatever reasons and situations take place as every couple has its own story.
and surely a divorce isnt taken lightly by anyone. it is traumatic for all people involved, no matter what.

[dead_battery]

marriage is a bond (fixed income agreement)

[Nefeli]

Originally Posted by dead_battery

marriage is a bond (fixed income agreement)

that too.


i have long accepted my inner battle of being cynical and hopelessly romantic.
so i can say that i dont think i agree with the idea of marriage either. at least not as it is lived by most people.
at the same time, i believe it has a great meaning. i mean, there is a greatness about it.
but then again how it will evolve, or even the reasons one gets to it in the first place, depends on their mentality.

i thought of susan sontag now and that quote: in marriage every desire becomes a decision.
i should read her on marriage.

[Savage Clone]

Originally Posted by Nefeli

yes, i understand that.

'why get married in the 1st place'- thats rhetorical too i guess..
people dont believe that they will get divorced..or whatever reasons and situations take place as every couple has its own story.
and surely a divorce isnt taken lightly by anyone. it is traumatic for all people involved, no matter what.

Indeed. My own divorce (after 24 years) was as amicable as they get and we are still close, but it was still the most emotionally devastating thing I have ever gone through.
I certainly didn't think it would ever happen in my life, but it did.

Can't imagine how much worse it is for people who have an ugly split.

[A Thousand Threads]

It's good to hear you are doing fine!


as for the love/marriage/relationship topic,
don't let yourself get too attached to another person...
no good for you, no good for the other person
no bueno

Originally Posted by foreverasskiss

for a man it's time to step up and be a man. that's whats it's about for a man, but minds change and it's a shame.
!

and for women?

 

birgit jürgenssen

[floatingslowly]

making marriage be "about the children" is shit for everyone involved. it should be about mutual trust, respect, and admiration. I'm not going to go into detail about my divorce, but my current marriage is the bee's fucking knees.

I'd toss out a "how dare you" disagree with gail's decision to leave her husband, but...whatever trips yr trigger.

[SONIC GAIL]

Originally Posted by foreverasskiss

you divorced yr husband? i don't really agree with that but, all for the best i guess.

as long as yr happy and content. rock on Sonic Gail!!!

I don't agree with it either. I was raised Catholic and even though I do not practice any particular "religion" I do view marriage as something very sacred. That being said I was also raised to stand up for myself and not allow someone to take advantage of my kindness and good intentioned efforts. At some point you have to sacrifice one belief in order to fulfill another. When I realized who I had become over the years and found a way to change it I did.

xo

[SONIC GAIL]

Originally Posted by foreverasskiss

if it's all for the best.... then i'm glad, but maybe my weirdness has to do with my baptist slightly catholic upbringing. i wish everyone the best of luck but divorce seems so wrong in a sence. why get married in the first place??
dont really agree with marriage anyway. so... wish sonic cute gail a good life...

Ditch that CATHOLIC BLOCK. It is a hard yoke to bear.

[SONIC GAIL]

Originally Posted by foreverasskiss

marriage is great if yr in yr mid 30's. but for what? raising kids? it's a great fractured ideal for romantics, but what about the rest of yr life? i've been engaged but now regret it.

for a man it's time to step up and be a man. that's whats it's about for a man, but minds change and it's a shame.

every marriage that i've known that has went well was all about the raising of the kids. my parents and me included. there something to say within that but not much else.

let's not discourage sonic gail. she made a decision like everyone else and she feels good about it. that's all that matters. i say rock on!!!

and godspeed!!!!

My decision was pushed by my love of the kids and their future. Most of you guys could see how out of control I had become and this was fueled by my husband. He held me back from being the mom and person I know I can be. I was left to choose him or the kids. They win everytime

[SONIC GAIL]

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to floatingslowly again.

[Nefeli]

Originally Posted by foreverasskiss

for a man it's time to step up and be a man. that's whats it's about for a man, but minds change and it's a shame.

sorry but this phrase is a total meh to me.

Originally Posted by foreverasskiss

every marriage that i've known that has went well was all about the raising of the kids. my parents and me included. there something to say within that but not much else.

thats a myth. having kids doesnt save or help a marriage.
on the other hand, if you are in a good relationship already, having and raising kids surely evolves and takes the relationship is a different level. <--erase that. might be a myth as well. it depends.

[Savage Clone]

I do not like or want kids. My marriage had nothing to do with procreation and I truly believe that is a huge reason why it lasted two and a half decades.

[floatingslowly]

yeah...b-b-but you should see my kid dance when Black Galleys comes on...

[Nefeli]

came back as soon as i woke up to edit the part about having kids. cuz dunno if thats real either. could be for the people who are into smth like this.

[Savage Clone]

Originally Posted by floatingslowly

yeah...b-b-but you should see my kid dance when Black Galleys comes on...

OK, I will admit I don't dislike all kids. A few that I know I like very much, but I am always glad not to have that particular responsibility myself.