My life just destroyed itself [rant] - Page 2

Kloriel · 11.16.2008, 01:13 PM

sounds like your primal instinct to be a manimal and punch the guy in the face is being intellectualized and the face punching energy is being redirected into serotonin fizzle fry. the healthiest course of action would be to engage in severe physical exercise and start signing up for karate tournaments.
or punch the guy in the face. with your words.

StevOK · 11.16.2008, 02:29 PM

People in relationships shouldn't be allowed to have close friends of the opposite sex.

davenotdead · 11.16.2008, 03:09 PM

best way to get back at 1 chick?

2 chicks.

Kloriel · 11.16.2008, 03:19 PM

the point isn't about permission. she's texting her friend on a phone while in the middle of a conversation? that's called rude.

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Originally Posted by StevOK

People in relationships shouldn't be allowed to have close friends of the opposite sex.

davenotdead · 11.16.2008, 03:36 PM

i agree, its mostly just rude.

this is kind of turning into a prude thread again... and i thought i was the conservative of the board... but i don't see what the problem is with a SO having close friends of the opposite sex.

fugazifan · 11.16.2008, 04:01 PM

all my friends except for like 2 are females. so if i ever have a girlfriend again, there is no way that i wont have friends of the opposite sex. my best friend is a girl.
inhuman, i wouldnt beat yourself up about it. i think even when in a serious relationship your partner needs other people to talk to. but there should still be some boundries

ihateyouth · 11.16.2008, 04:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Inhuman

My girlfriend and I are very close, but she recently got a new guy friend that she's constantly talking to. Every time I'm gone away (montreal, work, etc) she's with him and is in a never ending text message battle with him.

It's normal for this to be kind of bothersome, but things are really fucking up. I think I have paranoia. I start uncontrollably shaking, get cottonmouth, can't focus on what anybody is even saying to me sometimes. I know this is my mind creating delusions, but it takes a huge toll and people are thinking I'm really fucking odd because of it, especially her.

Now I'm seeing a psychiatrist starting next week. I've been feeling depressed excessively. Has anyone else had anything similar?

Your girlfriend is a part of your life, not everything. Don't be afraid of change. Relationships are complicated. It's ok to feel upset.
Taking antidepressives can ease your feelings, but remember it's just drugs and building a shield (feeling numb instead of sad or angry) will not solve anything. Open up to your psychiatrist before starting a med plan. His or her reputation doesn't mean he/she will understand what you're going through right away and it takes time to build confidence.
If you've been smoking too much marijuana paranoia could be the effect.
Anyway, good luck. I think I've felt like you before (depression after a break-up, psychiatrists, feeling crazy, etc) so I speak from my experience.
It's not so bad. Cheer up!

Everyneurotic · 11.16.2008, 08:34 PM

get a spare chick is this one runs away.

alternatively (and by that, i mean, SERIOUSLY), have you seen this guy? have you hang out with him? if not, tell your girlfriend that you three should go see a movie or something; if she doesn't want to and doesn't give you a reasonable excuse, then heads up, if she's cool with that, then you're clear.

EVOLghost · 11.16.2008, 08:36 PM

^^ If she aggrees to the movie...does he take her? If the three go out to a movie, isn't that weird?

Sonic Youth 37 · 11.16.2008, 08:36 PM

^ Righteous idea. The old forced third-wheel will let you see 99% of their relationship. Honestly, how he acts as the third wheel will tell you everything.

Everyneurotic · 11.16.2008, 08:39 PM

plus, if the guy is cool with being a friend, at least he has to be tolerant to the boyfriend. best case scenario, he ends up being a friend of both.

Sonic Youth 37 · 11.16.2008, 08:41 PM

Precisely. And if he's awkward and standoffish all night, let the speculation being.

atsonicpark · 11.16.2008, 08:42 PM

cellulite, blood, makeup caked acne scarred pothole skin, etc.

davenotdead · 11.16.2008, 08:59 PM

grow a bitchin porno stache before you go to this movie. this will establish dominance early on.

Dead-Air · 11.16.2008, 09:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Everyneurotic

get a spare chick is this one runs away.

alternatively (and by that, i mean, SERIOUSLY), have you seen this guy? have you hang out with him? if not, tell your girlfriend that you three should go see a movie or something; if she doesn't want to and doesn't give you a reasonable excuse, then heads up, if she's cool with that, then you're clear.

That MAY work. But I've known at least one girl who loved to go out with both guys she was stringing out as if they were all one happy family. The guys of course hated it, but pretended otherwise. Seems pretty miserable to me.

Everyneurotic · 11.16.2008, 09:41 PM

sure, i know that, but a) most of the time when that happens, dead air, both guys are oblivious to the circumstances, which is not the case here, at least for our hero inhuman and b) it's just this one time to test the waters, see how the guy acts around her and him. if, like you say, the girl enjoys herself more than the boys then something is going on, definitely.

11.16.2008, 09:47 PM

he tells you that he's feeling depressed about it, and you tell him that he should get a spare girl? are you being 'ironic' or what?

Everyneurotic · 11.16.2008, 09:57 PM

it was a jokey, porky.

phoenix · 11.16.2008, 10:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Inhuman

My girlfriend and I are very close, but she recently got a new guy friend that she's constantly talking to. Every time I'm gone away (montreal, work, etc) she's with him and is in a never ending text message battle with him.

It's normal for this to be kind of bothersome, but things are really fucking up. I think I have paranoia. I start uncontrollably shaking, get cottonmouth, can't focus on what anybody is even saying to me sometimes. I know this is my mind creating delusions, but it takes a huge toll and people are thinking I'm really fucking odd because of it, especially her.

Now I'm seeing a psychiatrist starting next week. I've been feeling depressed excessively. Has anyone else had anything similar?

employ caution and abandon paranoia.

you did say though that 'every time I go away'

have you thought that maybe she got the new friend because every time you went away she got lonely, and this new friend is solving that problem for her?

is part of yr paranoia, guilt at the fact that this dude is around for her when you are not?

just askin.. since I know I get pretty bored and lonely when my partner goes on long trips, so I can see it from that perspective.

Its possible that there is more going on, and its also possible that he's just a friend. Talking about it + hoping for honesty are the only things that will really leave you feeling any better.

deflinus · 11.16.2008, 10:58 PM

i think youre cheating on her and this is your way to cloak your guilt from yourself and her.

nah, just kidding, pal.

paranoia solves nothing and in most cases causes you to become irrational and actually create a problem when there isn't one

11.16.2008, 01:13 PM	#21
Kloriel expwy. to yr skull Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 1,554	sounds like your primal instinct to be a manimal and punch the guy in the face is being intellectualized and the face punching energy is being redirected into serotonin fizzle fry. the healthiest course of action would be to engage in severe physical exercise and start signing up for karate tournaments. or punch the guy in the face. with your words.
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11.16.2008, 02:29 PM	#22
StevOK expwy. to yr skull Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Henrietta, TX Posts: 2,412	People in relationships shouldn't be allowed to have close friends of the opposite sex. __________________ Follow me! Soundcloud Tumblr Facebook
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davenotdead invito al cielo Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 7,784	best way to get back at 1 chick? 2 chicks. __________________
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11.16.2008, 03:36 PM	#25
davenotdead invito al cielo Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 7,784	i agree, its mostly just rude. this is kind of turning into a prude thread again... and i thought i was the conservative of the board... but i don't see what the problem is with a SO having close friends of the opposite sex. __________________
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11.16.2008, 04:01 PM	#26
fugazifan invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 2,816	all my friends except for like 2 are females. so if i ever have a girlfriend again, there is no way that i wont have friends of the opposite sex. my best friend is a girl. inhuman, i wouldnt beat yourself up about it. i think even when in a serious relationship your partner needs other people to talk to. but there should still be some boundries __________________ If there's been a way to build it, There'll be a way to destroy it, Things are not that out of control www.myspace.com/dellilahtheband www.myspace.com/lecirquedesvampiresmusic
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11.16.2008, 08:34 PM	#28
Everyneurotic invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Mexico Posts: 15,713	get a spare chick is this one runs away. alternatively (and by that, i mean, SERIOUSLY), have you seen this guy? have you hang out with him? if not, tell your girlfriend that you three should go see a movie or something; if she doesn't want to and doesn't give you a reasonable excuse, then heads up, if she's cool with that, then you're clear. __________________ Richard Clayderman found alive and still bland! Repo Man has all night! Photographic evidence of Monosodic's existance! New Kiddieriot shit after all! Never too late to share fave rex from the year before! David Keenan is a douchebag! Ron Asheton missed!
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EVOLghost invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: cybatraz! Posts: 11,537	^^ If she aggrees to the movie...does he take her? If the three go out to a movie, isn't that weird?
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Sonic Youth 37 invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: if there is a bright spot in the universe, the farthest point from it Posts: 9,443	^ Righteous idea. The old forced third-wheel will let you see 99% of their relationship. Honestly, how he acts as the third wheel will tell you everything. __________________ "One: Where's the fife? and Two: Gimme the fife."
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11.16.2008, 08:39 PM	#31
Everyneurotic invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Mexico Posts: 15,713	plus, if the guy is cool with being a friend, at least he has to be tolerant to the boyfriend. best case scenario, he ends up being a friend of both. __________________ Richard Clayderman found alive and still bland! Repo Man has all night! Photographic evidence of Monosodic's existance! New Kiddieriot shit after all! Never too late to share fave rex from the year before! David Keenan is a douchebag! Ron Asheton missed!
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11.16.2008, 08:41 PM	#32
Sonic Youth 37 invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: if there is a bright spot in the universe, the farthest point from it Posts: 9,443	Precisely. And if he's awkward and standoffish all night, let the speculation being. __________________ "One: Where's the fife? and Two: Gimme the fife."
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11.16.2008, 08:42 PM	#33
atsonicpark invito al cielo Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 28,843	cellulite, blood, makeup caked acne scarred pothole skin, etc. __________________
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11.16.2008, 08:59 PM	#34
davenotdead invito al cielo Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 7,784	grow a bitchin porno stache before you go to this movie. this will establish dominance early on. __________________
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11.16.2008, 09:41 PM	#36
Everyneurotic invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Mexico Posts: 15,713	sure, i know that, but a) most of the time when that happens, dead air, both guys are oblivious to the circumstances, which is not the case here, at least for our hero inhuman and b) it's just this one time to test the waters, see how the guy acts around her and him. if, like you say, the girl enjoys herself more than the boys then something is going on, definitely. __________________ Richard Clayderman found alive and still bland! Repo Man has all night! Photographic evidence of Monosodic's existance! New Kiddieriot shit after all! Never too late to share fave rex from the year before! David Keenan is a douchebag! Ron Asheton missed!
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11.16.2008, 09:47 PM	#37
sarramkrop Posts: n/a	he tells you that he's feeling depressed about it, and you tell him that he should get a spare girl? are you being 'ironic' or what?
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11.16.2008, 09:57 PM	#38
Everyneurotic invito al cielo Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Mexico Posts: 15,713	it was a jokey, porky. __________________ Richard Clayderman found alive and still bland! Repo Man has all night! Photographic evidence of Monosodic's existance! New Kiddieriot shit after all! Never too late to share fave rex from the year before! David Keenan is a douchebag! Ron Asheton missed!
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11.16.2008, 10:58 PM	#40
deflinus expwy. to yr skull Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: in the darkest part of your mind Posts: 1,737	i think youre cheating on her and this is your way to cloak your guilt from yourself and her. nah, just kidding, pal. paranoia solves nothing and in most cases causes you to become irrational and actually create a problem when there isn't one
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