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It can be expensive, but a one day ground pass (like I had) costs $54 and you get to see any matches on any outside court all day. So if you're a tennis fan, and can handle the shitty Australian weather, it'd probably be worth it. Quote:
Hm, one of these days we could meet up. Quote:
A lot of conversation for a relationship that lasted ten days... Quote:
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I'd say about 90% of the people in my life are experiencing depression right now. I'm not, and frankly I'm getting overwhelmed dealing with their tears. I'd like to encourage them to talk among themselves and give me a momentary break, and I think your post should help encourage them. Quote:
Maybe she's hot now. Ever think of that, you disgusting age-ist? "Oh, but 70 is too old for me." Whatever. Pol Pot said the same thing. Probably. |
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You're just jealous that if you went for anyone my age you'd get called a creep. ![]()
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Sure, you do you. Empathy is all good, but it shouldn't come at the expense of your own well-being. Or: Don't wreck yourself. And to be completely fair, most people that tell me about their problems aren't exactly shouting from the rooftops. Many tend to bury it somewhere inside until it becomes so big that cracks begin to show. It's those cracks that I see and know all too well from my own experience. And I want to show empathy to the best of my ability. I think I'm doing alright with that all things considered - I too have learned to treasure a bit of distance. That said, I still try to show compassion in some way. I'm just sometimes afraid my attempts come off as somewhat hollow, due to the distance I exude. But then again, what can you do? Just rambling on now. Anyway, what I wanted to say: I fully understand. And cool that you are not experiencing it right now, especially given the environment you described. Not being depressed is a state worth keeping. And a healthy distance can certainly help if things get too much for you. |
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if im depressed or angry or whatever the last thing i want is some smug, chippy motherfucker trying to lord it over me with “positivity”.
motherfuckers like that don’t really wanna help you, they just wanna lard up their own egos with notions of emotional superiority. eat shit! besides, they might be even more fucked up, but in denial. a lot of alkies and children of alkies are like that: the feigned enthusiasm. the fake, hollow smile. so, hm, i’d rather play with a fellow sufferer with awareness than with some delusional. that is basically what a support group is, isn’t it? suffering is unavoidable in life. sure, gratuitous suffering is masochism, but for the unavoidable part, gimme compasion not smug superiority. old age, sickness, loss, death. |
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anyway compassion is great. too much compassion can be a sickness or an addiction in itself, though. codependence is real. tough balance to achieve—who said life was easy? not me |
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Right. I've seen it a good amount of times as well. Just wasn't sure if you were throwing that in in an ad hoc sort of way or expressing your displeasure with what's been discussed here. Compassion is awesome. I've just seen it being abused every now and then. Still wouldn't want to completely close myself off, that's certainly not the takeaway. It is however important to get the balance right. Be there for others, but nurture yourself as well. Cause those things should go hand in hand. |
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yeah. actually helping people is an antidepressant. my old shrink said there are clinical studies. maybe he lied to me but either way hahaha. i believe it will boost your serotonin, to put it clinically.
so when you help a fellow depressed you become less depressed [eta: something along these lines... https://www.medicaldaily.com/random-...-levels-383563 ] but then, there are the vampires. |
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self-care is número 1 (like arnold) shrinks like to remind you of this as an example: https://www.express.co.uk/travel/art...on-flight-mask |
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fun fact - Martina Hingis was born in Slovakia (to be precise, in the same city as I was). So, the beauty genes are there, for SURE
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I WOULD be a creep, so that's fair. Quote:
Does that happen often? I guess I understand the personality type you're talking about, but I don't have many people like that in my life. I'm not chippy. Just not depressed at the moment. But I'm familiar with the malady, so people come to me. I don't even really give advice. I just listen to people moan and say "Yes. I understand. I've been there." Quote:
Yeah. I'm probably coming off as a self-absorbed asshole, but in some cases I have gone from "being there" to "be there always for me or else." Quote:
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So I'm 'the destroyed room' now. Congrats me!
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My girl just start watching this. Probably the best thing that happened. She left my clothes neatly folded. |
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I was sitting on a V/Line train with my eyes closed (most of the time), listening to music (Goo), and moving backwards. It's extremely disorienting opening your eyes to find the train has stopped.
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